These days, she said, sex is less about being seen a certain way and more about understanding herself.
“Sex is a language, too, and your own sexuality, what turns you on, is like a beautiful dance you play with yourself,” she explained. “So many people spend so much more time on how they want to be perceived by others, and not their own sexual relationship with themselves, loving yourself and turning yourself on.”
Getting back in touch with her body, she added, has made intimacy more enjoyable: “It’s fun when you can discover that.”
Why Minke fits into her sober life
Delevingne, 33, has been dating musician Minke since 2022, the same year she began staying sober. She said the relationship works partly because they are not identical people, which is romantic in a refreshingly practical way.
“She’s a normie. I mean, she’s not sober, but she has a drink,” Delevingne said. “We’re very different. I can’t date someone like myself, ever, I come with a lot of stuff.”
She was also clear that the relationship has given her a kind of closeness she had not experienced before.
“She’s the most incredible person I know,” Delevingne continued. “We’re best friends, obviously, lovers, and everything else, but I’ve never had a relationship like it and felt so close to someone and felt so seen.”
For someone talking about sobriety, validation, and relearning intimacy, that phrase, “felt so seen,” carries weight. Delevingne is not framing recovery as a solo rebrand. She is talking about the people around her, and the ways a stable relationship can support a new life without needing to become the whole story.
Why she keeps talking about recovery
Delevingne said connection with other people has been central to staying sober over the past few years. Public attention can make recovery feel exposed, but she suggested openness has also led to meaningful conversations.
“Even when I go out, people want to talk to me about their own sobriety, and it saved my life. It’s no small thing,” she said. “It’s not like talking about my eyebrows.”
A fair distinction, given that eyebrows rarely come with existential consequences.
She added that sobriety may not be the answer for everyone, but she has seen it help people who needed room to process grief, pain, or major life changes.
“It’s not for everyone, but I don’t know one person who has had a period of sobriety, whether it’s because a parent died or they needed to really process something, that [sobriety] hasn’t helped.”
Delevingne’s comments land because they are not polished into a miracle narrative. She is saying sobriety changed her, made some things harder, made other things deeper, and forced her to reconsider what she was looking for from sex, love, and attention. That is not a slogan. It is someone describing the work in progress.
